Enjoying the Holidays, Even When Life is Stressful

By: Jamie Kaun

The old saying, “It’s the most wonderful time of the year,” may not ring true for some during the festive holidays. While the season is ideal for bringing joy, sharing time with family and friends, and celebrating the birth of Jesus, it can also be a sad and stressful time for many.

There are various reasons why it may not be joyous – financial issues, death of a friend or family member, illness, unexpected life changes, loneliness, and so much more. 

As a mom of three young children (four by the time this blog is published), it’s usually easy to be influenced by the joy and enthusiasm they exude during the Christmas season. They’re excited to see all the beautiful Christmas lights and decorations, sing holiday songs, drink hot chocolate on cold days, wish Jesus a happy birthday and of course, receive gifts from Santa. 

Although I truly want to mimic their happiness this season, I’m finding it a little difficult this year for several reasons, including a close family member’s recent rare cancer diagnosis. The C word is overwhelming and terrifying to hear any time of year, but it’s even more challenging when it comes during such a festive time. 

Perhaps like me, you are dealing with life issues that put a damper on the holidays. While it can be difficult not to focus on such stress, there are ways you can try to reduce and manage your stress, including the following suggestions adapted from the Mayo Clinic. 

1.    Acknowledge your feelings. It’s normal to feel sadness and grief if someone is sick, has died or you can’t be with loved ones. It’s OK to take time to cry or express your feelings!

2.    Reach out. Volunteer if you’re lonely. It’s a good way to lift your spirits and broaden your friendships.

3.    Be realistic. As families change and grow, traditions and rituals often change as well. Choose a few to hold on to and be open to creating new ones.

4.    Set aside differences. Try to accept family members and friends as they are even if they don’t live up to your expectations. 

5.    Stick to a budget. Don’t try to buy happiness with an avalanche of gifts. 

6.    Plan ahead. Set aside specific days for shopping, baking, visiting friends and other activities.

7.    Learn to say no. Saying yes when you should say no can leave you feeling resentful and overwhelmed. 

8.    Don’t abandon healthy habits. Have a healthy snack before holiday parties so you don’t overindulge, get plenty of sleep and incorporate regular activity. 

9.    Take a breather. Make some time for yourself to refresh so you can handle everything you need to do.

10.    Seek professional help if you need it. If you are persistently sad, unable to sleep or do routine chores, irritable or hopeless, talk to your healthcare provider or a mental health professional.

No matter what your life situation is and despite the challenges you’re facing, with a little positive thinking and by utilizing the suggestions above, perhaps you can find peace and joy this holiday season.